As a parent and a professional woman, I am constantly feeling the tug between accelerating my career while still being the kind of mom I want to be-present, available and engaged. I have no doubt that most parents, moms and dads, experience similar feelings whether they work because they need to or want to.
I just finished reading a book called Unfinished Business by Anne-Marie Slaughter. Ms. Slaughter argues that the discussion around “working moms” needs to change to a discussion about the demands of “care” and “competition”. She suggests that this is the next phase of the feminist movement, one that must include both women and men, and that challenges the value placed on traditional male and female roles and responsibilities. She argues that the lack of value and prestige placed on caregiving by our society is the most significant barrier to women’s ability to reach true equality in the workplace and I couldn’t agree more. Whether caregiving occurs in an unpaid setting like the home or a paid one like daycares and nursing homes, it is obvious to me what little value our society places on these professions. Just ask what your daycare worker is paid in comparison to a financial advisor! The feminist movement is ultimately about full inclusion and about choice. It’s time that both men and women have a true choice in the way they parent and pursue a career.
I highly recommend this book. It is thought-provoking and challenges our beliefs and understanding about women’s engagement in the workplace, about traditional male/female roles, and about the so-called “work-life balance”.
Hi! I’ve always said that the best thing parents can do is inform themselves about typical childhood development. Have you ever noticed how much information there is out there on prenatal development (hello, babycentre app?!) and development in the first year but then once your little person turns 1 it’s like, ‘Ok, doesn’t really matter what’s going on with their development anymore. Time to just wing it!’ Often times parents’ frustration comes from a misunderstanding of what is normal for children (e.g. stop beating yourself up every time your 1.5 year old steals toys from other kids. They are cognitively unable to understand sharing at this stage!).
Here’s a website I came across that talks specifically about childhood fears and what’s typical at certain stages of development.
Child Therapist’s List of Childhood Fears by Age
A new study published today in the scientific journal @TheLancetPsych provides further evidence that ADHD is a neurological disorder, not a behavioural one. There are still so many misconceptions about what ADHD or Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder is. Have a read:
Hi! This week is #playtherapyweek in the US. The Association for Play Therapy has launched a number of campaigns and initiatives to raise awareness about #playtherapy. Our Canadian association @cacpt also does a ton of work to regulate and train professionals and inform the public about child and play therapy.
#playtherapy is a specialized form of child therapy that recognizes the unique developmental needs of children and applies all forms of play including music, art and movement to counselling children. A registered or certified play therapist has undergone advanced training and supervision and ongoing professional development. Contact me to get more info!
I’ve attached a link to the Alberta Play Therapy Association. Check out this lovely explanation of what play therapy is. http://www.albertaplaytherapy.ca/go.php?page=4
Don’t forget to play today!
The CEO of The Centre for Newcomers in Calgary talks about her experience of depression. She makes some pointed comments about speaking to children about mental health.